Disappointment, distress inside the couple relation is mostly the result of a perception bias.
The other is not…
The other does not want to hear…
When will the other understand that … ?
The other person is not in charge of our fulfillment,
It is not their responsibility to make us happy.
We are the craftsmen of our fulfillment.
Allows the withdrawal of the other person from the representation framework where we had them trapped.
Understanding the other person does not have to make us happy, that they are not to blame for our unhappiness is a crucial step on the way to psychological maturity.
It is one key step aside from the infantile representations conveyed as an absolute requirement to the status quo by the media and society.
The other person has stopped being the recipient of our projections
This is also the real engagement, towards freedom,
The true way to commit as a couple.