Creating Reality : A Child’s Play

From childhood, we retain a fairly fine habit of integrating new skills.

It is a playful, quite refined, integrated, internalized reflex that underlies some of our psychic processes and is at the root of many major changes in our lives.
It is also possible that the adults who have been able to preserve and maintain this feature of childhood alive in themselves are the most likely to indulge in all the plastic suppleness that life offers.

It is often through play that changes take place in our lives.
We play, a little at first, we simply tickle the idea that, perhaps, things could be otherwise.

Doing so, we give birth to other emotional material within ourselves and begin to investigate them. This inner process is the expression of the child’s playful investigation of his spatial universe, of motor learning as well (manipulating a spoon, a pair of chopsticks, a pen), it is always through play that the first steps take shape.

The adult, frustrated by a life context generating an experience of suffering in him (family, professional situation, etc.)in a very similar way, also begins to imagine – by activating the same playful patterns as those of the young child – that things could be otherwise.
Just to see, to make believe, to play, he then allows in himself the setting in motion of different emotional patterns.

It may seem insignificant to him, he may not even be able to realize that these inner processes are happening. However, this is how change happens.

The first playful contacts with this ‘otherwise’ are the steps allowing to solidify a gain of confidence in the possibility of an alternative to the sclerotic or painful reality.

By playing with a alternative reality, little by little, we manifest it.
Emotional flows really emerge in us and, if they confirm the direction of a change, create and then increase the contrast between the situation experienced and the direction of the change.

The shift then can slowly take place, and what constituted our reality becomes evanescent as what we began to play with only a short time ago, takes shape in the real setting and becomes dense enough for us to be able to set foot.

It is perhaps also for this reason that adults with a strong imaginary power, a strong propensity to play, sometimes have rather unstable existences. They play with reality, and constantly set up alternative scenarios. By this playful dimension very pronounced in them, they then engage in these new realities much earlier than others.
The latter, moreover, often struggle to understand such creative profiles and can see but childishness and instability in them.
Indeed, that may as well be the case.

Also, it is necessary to leave enough space to consider that they have fully integrated the plastic property of reality and that their deep consciousness, from which they experience life, thus continues to learn, to bend and unfold, to integrate new elements, to play.

Rather than densifying an alternative reality, they grasped the undensifiability of any reality whatsoever. In this, they are further along the axis of consciousness. They may also have enough confidence in this property of non-stability not to suffer from the contemptuous looks cast by serious adults, who manage important things, grown-ups’ businesses.

By dint of freezing in heavy austerity, long-faced adults ended up believing in it.

©FJ April 2022
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