Altruism, an Antidote to Stress

Pretty much everything has been said and repeated about what stress is. From its biological origins to its everyday impacts on our personal, family and professional lives and its most severe manifestations….It’s all been said. But, a few days ago, I suddenly woke up thinking about my very own experience of stress and how it impacts me from within, ahead of all these worn-out, sometimes flattering, market-oriented considerations. Here’s the insight which appeared to me as the most relevant, as I was lying wide awake at 3 AM: An unanticipated aspect of stress may lie in the overestimation of people’s expectations from us. There appears to be (maybe more than) a hint of over self-consciousness causing stress. We think we won’t measure up….but there’s nothing or nobody to measure up to. In my case, if I break down what has kept me awake for so many nights, what I mostly discover is a fear…a fear not to meet these people’s expectations, which triggers a stress-like reaction: « I might no be good enough…. I might not be good.. I might not be at all. » This subtle projection of our non-recognition echoes to our deepest ancestral fears and brings about stress and a diffuse anxiety : we are generally unable to clearly identify a single cause. In reality, we must come to understand, from within, that as long as we are expecting other people to define us, we might not have started to really exist yet…. In reality, most of the faces we are scared to disappoint hide a self-centered person too focused on their  own issues to pay as much attention to us as we think they do. Most people do not care about you. They are waiting for you to really care about them. Franck‌ ‌Joseph‌ ‌ – ©FJ‌ March 2016 If you wish to join our silent sitting meditation sessions follow this link Articles are available as books and e-books : RECUEILS This content is made possible through your Participations Many thanks to all of you…

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