There are two different ways of approaching another human being :
-Through the usual prism : ‘after what he’s done to me, how can he think I might….’
This is our common operating mode when we interact with another person, in our daily relations as well as in our daily non-relation (people we’d rather not meet)…
This is the financial mode : I feel as the debtor, which means I’m expecting the other person to credit me with the awaited favor or advantage.
In other cases, I’m his creditor : the other person expects me to absolve her of a inconvenience or disappointment she might have caused.
In this case, I hold the power. I can decide whether I want to credit our relational account.
-The other prism, devoid of any accounting mechanism is the way of the Bodhisattva.
Away from the Lands of Inventory, the Bodhisattva approaches the other being with such a large space that any reference to management, optimization, sanction and retribution have become ridiculously useless.
These elements can no longer claim to rule the relationship.
This, is the Great Freedom of the Bodhisattva.
He has walked away from any pretention to fill table cells. Doing so, he enters the freedom of love, gift, and true compassion.
The former configuration locks our being in prisons of bitterness, anxiety and resentment.
It only takes a few drops of smartness from the one who seeks rationalizing accounts to dramatically multiply the destructive effects of such an ageless detention.
It only take a few drops of wisdom (enlightened renunciation) in the keyhole to allow the door to open onto a Land of Unlimited Joy.
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